Losing someone so dear is one of the most painful things anyone could experience. Be it a friend, family or just someone close to you.
The thought of knowing that the person is no more and you wouldn’t get to see them ever again in this world makes it rather difficult to bear.
Even with the saying that “they are in a better place” it still doesn’t help.
This situation even makes some people detach themselves from the world. It makes them isolated simply because they do not want to talk about it either do they want to discuss it. Well, that’s always the thought we have but sometimes it’s actually the other way round.
What I’ve got to learn just last week is that the bereaved needs love from people around them. They may not necessarily need the support but that constant show of love and concern from people close to them makes them feel a lot better.
A friend of mine who lost her mum recently told me that there was only one person whom she will never forget again in her life. She said that a lot of people gave her financial support which she appreciated and still appreciates but an act from one person stood out for her.
According to her, this person didn’t give her any financial support but what she gave her surpassed any finances whatsoever.
When I asked her what that was, she said that this person consistently sent her consoling messages and always checking on her to ensure she was ok. She said this person doesn’t call her but simply sends her text messages and those text messages really helped her a lot because she was in a terrible state and needed encouraging words like that.
She went on to say that, the bereaved need constant love and support so as to enable them to stay strong and to avoid being depressed or do something that will endanger their lives.
She also mentioned that though finances are a good support to help with the burial it is not necessarily what the bereaved need at that point because all they could think about is the possibility of bringing their loved ones back to life if they could.
The bereaved needs love from people around them.
For the fact that bringing them back to life is impossible, the only support they need is love and a constant reminder that they’ve still got other loved ones around them. This show of love and affection helps them heal quickly.
Those words really got to me deeply because I’ve always thought that the bereaved are best left alone because they wouldn’t be in the mood to speak to anyone and they would prefer to be left alone.
I was totally wrong! My friend’s message made me reflect deeply on my past thoughts and actions towards the bereaved. I always pray for them and most times summoned the courage to call them. I never knew that wasn’t enough but now I have learned and I hope you learn that too.
How do you show support to the bereaved?
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